Part 3 – Self Care

Self-care is absolutely essential to your transformation, and here’s why.

Well, I’m getting ahead of myself.

First, let’s define what self-care is.

Self-care is recognizing that your mind and your body are probably the same thing, and at the very least, your brain runs on your body’s software.

Basically, your brain is like Windows. And your body is the computer that Windows is running on.

If you don’t take care of your body’s needs, you’re going to have a shitty mental experience.

What do I mean by taking care of your needs? Doing things like:

  • Getting at least 8 hours sleep a night (even if you don’t think you need it)
  • Moving your body everyday for at least 30 minutes, and working out with intensity at least 3x week
  • Meditating each day (more on that in a bit)
  • Eating vegetables once a day minimum
  • Drinking enough water to be hydrated (peeing clear most of the day)
  • Seeing other humans face to face at least a few times a week, preferably ones who are friendly to you and treat you well
  • Having some form of dating going on, even if it’s sporadic and on the distant backburner

These are all basic, fundamental needs to being human. You can get by without doing some of these in the short term.

But in the long term, your body will start to look and feel and perform like shit.

And that will affect your mental health, no fucks about it.

The Man or Woman In The Mirror

Plus, here’s another thing:

You can do affirmations and stuff all you want.

Until you actually take actions to make your life better, you’re going to have a tough time convincing your inner critic that you’re inherently worthy of love.

Here’s the equation:

If you don’t feel like you’re worthy of love, you can’t just change your mind on a dime.

You need to convince yourself, just like you would convince any other person.

And what’s the best way to convince someone of something?

I’ll give you a hint: ever heard the expression “actions speak louder than words?”

There’s actually a really cool quote that sums that up even better:

“What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.”

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you’re sitting around all day hitting the bong and jerking off (sorry, that’s what I did, not judging you friend) then your self-image is likely to be a little tarnished.

What you need to do is PROVE to yourself that you’re worthy of love.

NOT by achievement.

No – you need to treat your body with so much respect and love, that your mind will have no choice but to acknowledge,

“Hey, there’s a lot of effort being spent here on me. I guess I’m worth something after all.”

You’re basically building your foundation of self-love and self-respect, one pillar at time.

And along the way, you’ll get super healthy, which is pretty much the best thing you can do for your mental health.


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