OK, you’re in the next part of your journey.
It’s good to have you.
First, there’s one KEY thing you must understand:
If you have low self worth, it’s usually because you have an incredibly overactive “Inner Critic.”
That voice of self-judgement. That harsh, punishing, brutal inner dialogue.
That critical voice inside your head that constantly says things like:
- “You’re so fucking lazy.”
- “What’s wrong with you?”
- “You’re such a piece of trash.”
- “God I hate you.”
With this constant stream of negative self talk…
It’s no wonder that we feel low self worth.
So, right here, right now, I’m going to give you an “unconventional” trick you can use to silence your inner critic –
And start building high self worth.
But first, let’s talk about where this Inner Critic comes from.
Why Do We Develop Mean “Inner Critics?”
As children, some of us got love unconditionally.
Others, not so much.
So, we learned to play a certain role in order to receive love.
Maybe you had to be “the sweet girl who never complained and was always happy.”
Or, “the tough young man who never uttered a complaint.”
I personally was “the very polite son who acted like a rock” to my parents.
Now, a role requires certain behavior.
So, to help you play the “role” that would get you love, your mind developed the Inner Critic.
Need to please a “laziness is a sin” parent?
- It would say things like, “You need to stop being so lazy. WORK HARDER!”
Need to please a “never show negative emotions” parent?
- Your Inner Critic would say “Stop complaining. You’re being a crybaby.”
How To Stop Judging Yourself Harshly
Here’s a key insight secret that will help you build yourself worth.
You need to realize your inner critic actually wants the best for you.
If your inner critic is telling you to “stop being so lazy” (a phrase I used to hear a lot years back), it’s not trying to hurt you.
It just wants you to be productive.
So, what’s the answer?
An honest inner dialogue.
Talking to your inner citic like you would talk to a friend.
Saying, “Hey, friend, we’re on the same team here. When my life gets better, yours gets better. We’re on the same side.”
You set boundaries. You have real discussions.
And you create a healthier inner dialogue – which is KEY to building high self worth.
If you think this is cooky by the way, I didn’t make it up.
However, this isn’t the whole story.
There are two other keys to building high self worth – keep reading to learn what they are.